Thursday, June 09, 2011

girls shouldn't be allowed to have love marriages under age 21?????

apparently thats what a bench of the Karnataka high court thinks.. the 2 judge bench actually recommended that the parliament might consider looking into amending the Hindu marriage act to ensure that girls under 21 can't have love marriages!

“ In our opinion, the girls below the age of 21 years are not capable of forming a rational judgment as to the suitability of the boy, with whom they are in love. It is relevant to mention that those girls, who are suffering from hormonal imbalance easily fall prey to the boys and fall in love, marry and repent at leisure,” the judges said in an order last month.


Justice K Bhakthavatsala and Justice K Govindarajulu stressed that the Parliament had not taken into account love marriages when the Bill was introduced. “ Since the Hindu Marriage Act does not deal with love marriages, in our view, it is high time that the Parliament take note of the sufferings of such girls and their parents and amend the law suitably,” the judges said.

They suggested that run- away marriages of girls under 21 be declared void or voidable.


as a student of law, i'm in shock..
1)a HIGH COURT bench is recommending that the parliament consider restricting the right of an adult to choose their life?? even while allowing parent/guardian/community to force a girl under age 21 to marry someone "arranged" for her? the high court seems to have forgotten that a consenting adult is capable of contract and the law cannot interfere in such contracts except in rare cases.
2). the HIndu marriage act does not at any point define who is allowed to arrange the wedding.. all it says is that "marriage" must be duly solemnised according to ritual. Nowhere in its 29 sections does the act mention anything about "love" or "arranged" marriage. all it requires is that two adult hindus solemnise the marriage according to the rituals and customs of either party. i fail to see on what basis the court has found it self capable of making such a ridiculous recommendation for legislative change..
3) it ominously highlights the fact that even our higer judiciary is still caught in the patriarchial framework where a girl is a "possession" to be carefully tended and handed over..

what i fail to understand is that how the same judiciary who allows rapists and molesters to roam free, suddenly develops such moral principles of control when the girl decides to take matters into her own hands rahter than be made into a victim.. if u really want to recommend changes, how about a change in the definitions of bigamy, maintenence provisions for estranged/abused women, rape laws, punishments for assault...?? out of the thousands of legislatons floating around in this country, what on earth made the court take notice of the humble little HMA??

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

background scores to life..

Santana- Just feel better..


I know, I know, I know
Part of me says let it go
Everything must have a season
Round and round it goes

And every day's the one before
But this time, this time

I'm gonna try anything that just feels better
Tell me what to do
You know I can't see through the haze around me
And I do anything to just feel better


I can't find my way
God I need a change
And I'd do anything to just feel better
Any little thing that just feel better


I'm tired of holding on
To all the things I ought to leave behind, yeah
It's really getting old, and
I think I need a little help this time
 
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Friday, June 03, 2011

bah humbug!

call me grinch if you will.. but friends who are in serious relationships are no fun at all.. they always have their own thing going, or are distracted with their phones the whole time, or ditch you to spend extra time with their partner, and make you feel like a heel for asking them to ditch the partner and hang out for a bit with you instead..
:P